“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie
I would like to share with you a wonderful article about gratitude. I know for myself, in my addiction, I was not grateful for anything I had. I was focused only on myself and could really not see past the end of my own nose and did not want to. I now try to live my life in gratitude and at times this is difficult. Reading this article allowed me to refocus on how I want to live my life now and to give thanks for sobriety and the opportunities it has afforded me.
If any of you feels like you have lost your focus of gratitude or is struggling with how to have a thankful mindset, please read this article. Gratitude is defined as “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.” and there is really no way to explain the word than the definition. Do I have the quality of being thankful today? Do I have a readiness to really show others my appreciation for the things they do and say? Finally, do I have the readiness the desire to return the kindness I receive?
I believe gratitude is a necessary tool to carry in the Sobriety Toolbox. How can we have success in recovery without gratitude? I do not believe we can. When people are grateful for what they have, they will experience a great deal of happiness in their life. When the individual is constantly lamenting their lot and living in self-pity, it will be impossible for them to find peace of mind.
Gratitude is not about what people have or do not have. There are billionaires who still do not feel satisfied and poor people who feel they have everything they need. The tendency to feel grateful is a mental attitude that can be developed. It is particularly important that people recovering from an addiction try to cultivate this positive outlook, because it can help to ensure their success in the future.
Some believe, if people are grateful to be sober, it is unlikely that they will relapse back to their addiction. This is because they will have the motivation to do what they need to in order to protect their sobriety. A grateful attitude will mean that people can face the challenges that confront them in recovery calmly. They will tend to see problems as a chance to grow rather than some type of attitude. This positive way of dealing with things will lead them towards the ultimate goal of recovery, that is, complete serenity.
Self absorption can be a huge problem for people in recovery. When people are addicted to alcohol or drugs, they will spend most of the time only thinking about their own needs. When these individuals become sober, they may continue to be preoccupied with themselves. Self-absorption and self-pity make life difficult. When people feel grateful, they have less reason to be so selfish. They feel satisfied that their own needs are being met so they can now focus at least some of their attention on the needs of other people.
So, if you do not know what happened with your gratitude tool, please search it out and ask others to help you find it. If you need help knowing where to begin, check out the article by Kat Charles. When discovered, use it. Tools do us no good if they are not put to use. As always I would love to hear from you and welcome your thoughts on gratitude, how to find it if it is lost, and what ways you practice to show gratitude.